How many times do you feel your feelings, and wonder what those feelings are conveying to you? Yup, we tend to take our feelings for granted and go all auto-pilot about them.
When we have a lovely feeling we usually don’t question it, we just enjoy the moment. But the feelings that are downright unpleasant, are the ones we have to figure out why we’re feeling that way, or it’s abundantly obvious, or we push through the unpleasant feelings because it’s what we’re accustomed to doing.
When a good friend of mine experiences unpleasant feelings, she often says she puts her big girl pants on and gets over it. Hmmm, perhaps putting our big girl pants on, translates to, I don’t want to look at why I feel this way because I might feel even worse when I find out what it’s really about. I get it, I’ve been there, but this feeling will keep coming back until it’s looked at and understood.
To experience a deeper connection with ourselves, our intuition, it’s a good idea to pay attention to both, our good, and not so good feelings. Both types of feelings are teaching us about what we’re creating, how we’re thinking and processing our experiences, all the way to how we react to them.
Let’s focus on our good feelings, and what they can teach us about how to create even more lovely moments for ourselves.
Just as an example, imagine I’m in France eating pastries, and looking at the Eiffel Tower, feeling greater than great. Oh, how I LOVE France and their pastries! It’s not possible to recreate that exact same scenario, in order to feel “the France feelings” on a frequent basis, since I can’t afford to jump on a plane to there every week. But I can think about what it is I loved about that experience, to bring more of those nice feelings into my life, without flying across the ocean. What that experience conveyed to me is one of adventure, enjoying great food, inspiring views, seeing new people in a different culture, and appreciating architecture. If I dig deeper, I also realize I love learning and connecting with people. There’s lots of laughter because I feel relaxed and carefree since it’s about having fun. I’m inspired by the buildings, food, people, and art. See how that experience conveys a lot of good stuff resulting in great feelings and emotions?
Now that I understand how and why I felt good, how do I create more opportunities for these kinds of feelings throughout the day, when playing or working right here in my non-France experience?
For me, I enjoy nice feelings most mornings when I begin it with yoga and meditation, preferably beginning before it’s light outside. When working, I can experience “yippee” feelings when I’m connecting with others through writing a blog post, when I create and deliver a talk and when people positively respond to my words. And, I experience wonderful feelings when someone comes up afterward to share their experiences with me. When playing, there are the relaxed and carefree feelings I get from walking in the woods. More good feelings come from my appreciation of art, including creating my own amateur work, all the way to appreciating professional artists in galleries. Feelings of inspiration show up as I connect with people and hear their stories. And, there’s gratefulness.
We can begin to see how easy it is to create opportunities that foster higher emotions. This is really helpful when we encounter the inevitable smaller cracks in our sidewalk so to speak.
We’re human. As you well know, that even with the best of intentions, our experiences will sometimes shift from feeling great to oh this is a drag. This past week I noticed my yucky feelings around some tired and all too common time-weary practices. Well-intentioned as they may be, they drain me rather than raise me. I hit a hard stop, feeling that’s enough of that, it would be wise to stop and choose something else to do. I did, and my body immediately felt better, my mood came up, and I enjoyed the rest of my day. As they say, in France, voila! Actually, I don’t think they say that, that much.
Do you see how easy (and fun) it is to trust, benefit, and grow from what our feelings are showing us? To make little changes in our routine in order to cultivate more fun, more lightheartedness? …in order to be more creative, joyful, inspired, fulfilled and so forth.
What are the variety of feelings you notice as you experience your day, and what are you learning from them?