How many times do you feel your feelings, and wonder what those feelings are conveying to you? Sometimes we tend to take our feelings for granted and go all auto-pilot about them.
To experience a deeper connection with ourselves, it’s a good idea to pay attention to both our good, and not so good feelings. Both types of feelings are teaching us about how we’re thinking, reacting, and processing our experiences, all the way to what we’re creating as a result.
When it isn’t obvious why we’re feeling badly, we might take a minute to be aware we might just find out why we’re feeling the way we do. The other day I was at my computer for hours and I guess I wasn’t a happy camper. I kept thinking just a little more time and I’ll be done. I was pushing through my icky feelings. But at some point, I felt awful and asked myself why. And I just knew it was time to walk away and do anything else but what I had been doing. Anything to bring a little more joy in.
And how do we cultivate bringing higher feelings in? Being aware of what brings us joy. We all love vacations right? But why do we feel so good on vacation? When we know specifically what makes us feel good we can bring more of those simple things into every day. I can’t afford to jump on a plane every week to vacation in order to feel amazing vacation feelings. But I can think about what it is I loved about vacation experiences, and bring more of those nice feelings into my week. It’s about adventure, enjoying great food, inspiring views, seeing new people in a different culture, and appreciating architecture. If I dig deeper, I also realize I love learning and connecting with people. There’s lots of laughter because I feel relaxed and carefree since it’s about having fun. Some of what I feel is inspiration. I’m inspired by the buildings, food, people, and art.
So on any given day, I can be sure I’m learning, doing something that relaxes me, taking time to experience art, connect with people at a class or some other new social event. Maybe it’s just reading my favorite design magazine on a break from work or heading off to a museum. Perhaps it’s driving into town for lunch or trying a new restaurant. Could be I make time for a walk in the woods. Duh right? But putting myself first ahead of my to-do punch list took practice at first.
For example keeping up on social media often is un-fun to me. For now anyways. I know now what part of my work inspires me and I’m focusing more on that part, rather than the work tasks that constrict me. Perhaps the tasks that I really don’t enjoy doing, I can do less of, or allow someone else to handle them. If not, I can play music while I’m tackling them and take lots of breaks.
We can begin to see how easy it is to create opportunities that foster higher emotions. We can learn to feel better. This is really helpful when we encounter the inevitable smaller cracks our sidewalk so to speak.
This is important to practice regarding the bigger picture as well. There are a lot of confusing and troubling things going on in the world right now. It’s good for us and it’s also good for our world if we’re all living in our higher emotions rather than our lower emotions. Takes focus, practice, and it takes kicking the attraction to negativity to the curb. How we feel is so important to what we’re creating in every moment, even the more seemingly insignificant moments of our day.
Being aware of our feelings in an ordinary day, with ordinary experiences, and consider making even tiny changes in our thoughts and actions, can lead to creating a better experience for ourselves (and our world).