When It’s Time To Stop Trying So Hard

If we want our relationships, our work, our art, our life experience to be amazing, we will need to learn to let go of trying to “do” it right and learn how to have more fun.   There are best practices for everything, from social media, promoting ourselves, growing our business, even our spiritual practice.  There’s always someone to help us get caught up in doing it better, right, doing whatever it is more correctly, more successfully.  It’s all good, but take a minute and breathe.

I believe, from personal experience, that everything, from any particular area of our spiritual growth through our work, relationships, art, everyday experiences, will all flourish and bloom in releasing our need to control or force things into place just so.

When we’re in alignment with our purpose, we’re truly following our heart, we’ll be successful, however success shows up for us on our path.

pexels-photo-258330We can cultivate a wonderful balance in life of work and play.  Many have mastered work equals play.  And, this works great until we think we need more knowledge, to be more perfect, in order to be more successful, or we run into a challenge.

 

This week my challenge is my beautiful SaraDoolittle.com website photos are cut off on a PC.   I’ve now spent hours trying to crop them, trying different aspect ratios, moving the focal point around, trying other photos, emailing my website’s customer service (they’re very nice), and spending hours on user experience with my husband on his PC laptop and me on my MAC laptop.   Ugh.  This was not fun, at all.  Frustrating and time-consuming.

So what to do when it all starts to feel less than fun and more like a grueling task and my mood goes to hell in a hand basket?   I take breaks.

 

Yesterday we walked away from house projects and website projects.  We went to our favorite baked potato restaurant, visited a couple of art galleries, took a photo to be framed, and enjoyed a farmer’s market.  It can be just a few minutes or several hours, whatever it is will assist us more than pushing through a challenge.  Why?  When we have fun, loosen up, we allow for the best ideas and solutions to come to us.

So I pay attention to how I feel when I’m in task/work mode except for when I don’t 🙂   When I do walk my talk, I ask myself how I feel.  How is my level of energy?  It doesn’t have to be OMG this is SO AMAAAAZINGGGG EXCITING kind of energy, but rather just a feeling of hey, I’m enjoying this.  I love what I’m doing right now.  Or, just I’m in the zone, this feels nice.

It’s good to know how to practice self-kindness and assist ourselves and enjoy being more.  I’m still practicing this.  As an ex-“uber-doer”, it’s so worth it to practice this balance.

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