When It’s Time To Stop Trying So Hard

If we want our relationships, our work, our art, our life experiences to feel good, we will need to learn to let go of trying to ‘do life right’ and instead learn how to have more fun in any and all ways possible.  More and more are pexels-photo-258330saying to me how are you doing this?  What is it that you’re doing to make this <good stuff> happen?  The truth is I’m enjoying myself in all parts of my life not just my “work” and that’s why and how it’s all coming together.

I see that people are pushing and pushing to be their best.  That often includes striving to be successful, however they perceive success.  In trying to stand out and be successful we actually mainstream ourselves by fitting in to doing best practice mode. 

I get it.  There has to be a balance in promoting ourselves.  I’ve taken on some “best practices” too and I’m trying to learn a couple of social media thing-a-ma-bobbers.  But more often than not, I’d rather noodle with art or enjoy the outdoors so my social media presence is meh.  For me, mastering all “the correct and proven steps”, sucks the joy right out of my life and then things get stuck.  So I keep my work related tasks simple and just. have. fun.

There are best practices for everything and I’ve heard more rules from people than I can shake a stick at.   There’s always someone to help us get caught up in doing it better, right, doing whatever it is more correctly, more successfully, more their way.

You want to know more of my best practices?  It’s going for a walk in the woods, painting, taking and editing my photos, writing, hanging out with my husband, sailing, watching a great movie, enjoying a fascinating book, creating a meal, listening to music.

My own personal experience has taught me, that everything, from any particular area of my spiritual growth, meaning my work, relationships, art, even simple everyday tasks and experiences, flourish and bloom as I release my need to force things into place.  And to instead just enjoy all aspects of my life.

This past week, I experienced myself starting to slouch into this is not enjoyable mode, and switched gears.  We went to our favorite lunch spot, ate outside, spoke with some locals, visited a couple of art galleries, took a photo to be framed, and enjoyed a farmer’s market.

Another happy result from joy is that it allows for our best ideas and creativity to blossom, and answers and solutions can show up to any challenges we’re experiencing.

Is your intuition is assisting you in learning to pay attention to how you feel in more and more moments and to strike a nice balance?  It doesn’t have to be OMG this is SO AMAAAAZINGGGG EXCITING kind of feeling because that’s impossible to maintain all the time, but sometimes it’s just a feeling of I’m in the zone, this feels nice.  And if something doesn’t feel right, to learn not to push through it and keep hammering away but instead to take a break and do something else.

If we want our relationships, our work, our art, our life experience to be even better than what we can imagine, we will need to learn to let go of other people’s ways, our quest for perfection, and instead just allow for the enjoyment of life in any and all ways possible.

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2 thoughts on “When It’s Time To Stop Trying So Hard

  1. Mark S.

    I love your approach to best practices and especially that too many people are trying to be seen. I am a fellow blogger and I would prefer to be anonymous as my main objective is to shared information with the hole that someone else has a connection with what I’ve experienced and learned from some many people throughout my life. Thank you for post!

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