I’ve often thought that family and one very good friend believe that I became a better version of myself when I met a nice guy. Granted, this nice guy, now my husband, is an incredibly loving and kind person. He’s funny, creative, smart, clever, and I love him so much. But my life did not just snap into a beautiful place when he showed up.
My suspicion was realized when a family member commented, “And then you met Dave” in the context of once I met my husband my life was all unicorns and rainbows. Um, no. No one can make us happy, give us peace, or a sense of purpose. I had to change the way I thought of myself and look at where all those limiting thoughts started from. The member of my family annoyed me (this is an understatement) because it showed he didn’t know me at all. To think he thought it was all about finding a nice man was doubly annoying. Wow. But the poor guy was only going on an assumption because he didn’t know any better. He didn’t know because the timing of me beginning to uncover my spirituality was not long after I met my husband. And, I didn’t tell anyone about what I was doing around how I was learning to look at where my limiting beliefs started, how I was learning to look at myself and how I put myself out in the world. This is not the kind of work everyone wants to hear about, regardless of the positive outcome.
Years ago, what I was opening to was private and also unusual so I assumed people would laugh at me or make fun of me in disbelief. I was just beginning to nurture a small seedling of my spirituality and I didn’t want anyone stomping on it. So I kept my experiences to myself. I didn’t share it with even my oldest friend because we always appear to be on the opposite ends of the spectrum regarding introspection. Instead I concentrated on my new habits, new ideas and perspectives that would change my life and I pulled back from anyone who tends towards being sarcastic, dismissive or negative about life. It even took me a while to share some of it with the very man who is credited with changing my life. Of course he touches my life in many beautiful ways, he’s just not responsible for me working my bum off to release my limiting beliefs and opening to something more beautiful.
So after the comment from “harmless family person”, about a week later, I’m reading the local entertainment paper and see the horoscopes. I rarely look at horoscopes but decide to read my husband’s for fun. We laugh because it’s so not him.
Then I start to read mine out loud and bammo it’s just how I feel! Very specific. As I kept reading we both laughed at how surprisingly on target it was. I giggled so much that tears were streaming down my face. Thank you Universe, it’s just what I needed.
The world will never fully know or appreciate the nature of your heroic journey. Even the people who love you the most will only ever understand a portion of your epic quest to become your best self. That’s why it’s important for you to be generous in giving yourself credit for all you have accomplished up until now and will accomplish in the future. Take time to marvel at the majesty and miracle of the life you have created for yourself. Celebrate the struggles you’ve weathered and the liberations you’ve initiated…