So I’m noodling around with a workshop I’ll be contributing to in a few weeks. My section is about setting and working towards our vision of our best, pertaining to finding and aligning with our purpose. It’s no accident that I’m leading the section where we discuss concrete steps we might take to stay in alignment with our vision. Because this is exactly where I am in my own life.
As we align with our purpose we all need assistance. Initially, I thought I could do it all myself. But I need assistance with legalities, forms, and fresh eyes looking at my content, among many other things.
The perfect person always shows up at the perfect time. Even the ones who don’t seem so perfect. There’s all kinds of support. Beautiful support from who I can’t so much see but I’m tremendously benefiting from as opportunities and people are sent my way.
Then there’s the support from people who unknowingly are challenging me and teaching me to stand up for myself or whatever the lesson may be. Those are the most surprising and often uncomfortable relationships, the pop into my life for only a short time until I get what they’re showing me. And it can take me a while to figure out what it is they’re showing me. At first I might even go kicking and screaming into the what’s there for me to learn. But I don’t want to speak up. I’m comfortable with my people pleasing inauthentic behavior. It’s more difficult to share my truth and be myself. And I look away until it becomes so uncomfortable that I have to pay attention. Ok, what is this about?!
All I can say is, if something doesn’t feel right, it’s a good idea to take a minute to try to figure out why because it’s there to learn from, however uncomfortable it feels.
Speaking up in the moment has always been a challenge for me, so how great is it that in moving forward into my purpose someone pops up to teach me to speak up?
For example, one person I recently hired was with the intention of receiving help to become more succinct on my website. I soon learned our business relationship was more about teaching me to speak up for myself, though she has no idea she’s teaching me this. This person is reminding me to pay attention to my feelings and to my intuition asking myself…does this person’s suggestions align with my vision or not? I’m learning to manage our business agreement…are we still focused on the initial goal? Am I getting what I paid for?
I used to fold and follow from both a lack of confidence and worry I might hurt someone’s feelings if I disagreed with them or worry they might not like me. But things are way different now, and this is not the time to fall back into my old habits.
As I listened to our recorded meetings I was very surprised that what I was saying and projecting outwardly, was not how I really felt. I heard myself agree when I disagreed. I heard myself say “yeah”, “ok”, lot’s of “yups”, and “thank you’s” when instead I was feeling “no”, “why are we talking about this?”, or “I don’t feel this is working out for me”. I was cringing when I listened to the recordings.
Turns out a little cringing was worth it because I got it. Speaking up to get what I pay for is a valuable skill to learn as my vision grows and as I hire more people to assist me in my vision. So a big thank you to this person and to my guides for the opportunity. I need to bring more authenticity and confidence to my business dealings and to every relationship.